![]() There are SO many possibilities out there that your imagination might not have even thought up yet. While it’s easy to become a creature of habit as soon as you’ve nailed that go-to, comfortable, climax-every-time position, Parks urges you to keep mixing it up. But even after you’ve found that pain-free position, that doesn’t mean it’s your only option. "If you're thinking 'ouch' when the offer of sex is put on the table, you could definitely benefit from exploring other positions that are more comfortable for folks with diverse abilities, as well as those with chronic pain, or pain from penetration," Parks adds. In some cases, switching up positions might even be a must. ![]() And in the end, you’ll find your relationship injected with an extra dose of trust. New sex positions will encourage you both to be more vulnerable with one another in-and outside of -the bedroom. Exploration between the sheets amps up emotional intimacy and encourages partners to take risks and grow together. "One significant challenge to intimacy is the loss of novelty in the bedroom," says Shawntres Parks, licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego. ![]() Trying out different ~moves~ can also work wonders for your relationship. In short, your brain craves newness, and especially for women, your brain is very involved in your excitement and satisfaction. "Anytime you introduce something fresh and novel into the bedroom, you set yourself up for a more stimulating experience and bigger finish," says Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex therapist in L.A. Even the hottest spark in the bedroom needs new sex positions to stoke the flames from time to time-otherwise things get boring, fast. Your sexcapades, though? Definitely not one of them. Now that you're all caught up.Some things in life are better on repeat: Friends, perfectly sunny beach days, your trusty manicure. It’s more about finding techniques and moves that you can connect with and that allow you to connect with your partner on more than one level. "It’s not so much about going in and being able to do all of these different positions," says Engle. "It even says that if a man can pleasure a woman properly, his business will do better because she won’t spend your money needlessly, and that a man would even be a better warrior." "They believed that if the woman was fully pleasured, sex would go on for longer in a marriage," she adds. The Kama Sutra section on sexuality "was designed to teach a man how to make sure that the woman was fully pleasured," says sex expert Seema Anand, author of The Arts of Seduction. The ancient text even teaches that men should prioritize a woman’s pleasure over their own (hear hear!), by focusing on making sure she climaxes before even thinking about their own orgasm. That said, the section on sexuality is packed with a number of sex positions that promote emotional intimacy between partners by way of touch and physical connection. " about the art of living and loving well and obtaining and maintaining the pleasures of life- including sex and love," confirms sex therapist Debra Laino, DHS. The Kama Sutra does address sex positions, but it’s really only in one section, points out Gigi Engle, a certified sex coach. But, she adds, "Unfortunately, people still use these reductive, racist ideas to think about Indian sexuality in the past and present." Burton "wanted to create a fantasy for his English-speaking audience by portraying people of the East as hypersexual and unchanging, without history," notes Mitra. The "distortion" of the book happened "in part because the first edition of Kama Sutra in English was done by colonial enthusiast-and Orientalist-Richard Burton in the late nineteenth century," Mitra explains. The original set of texts that became known as Kama Sutra "were actually about everything from urban living to statecraft, from perfumes to gardens," Mitra says. " Kama Sutra is a book of philosophy on ethics and aesthetics, never just an ancient text on sexual positions and sexual pleasure." ![]() and other parts of the western world," says Durba Mitra, PhD, an assistant professor of women, gender, and sexuality at Harvard University, and author of Indian Sex Life: Sexuality and the Colonial Origins of Modern Social Thought. "The Kama Sutra has been quite distorted in how it has circulated in translation in the U.S. The Kama Sutra, written by Indian philosopher Vatsyayana, has garnered a lot of attention for acting as a guidebook to what seems like every sex position ever (some waaaay more adventurous than others). I'm talking about the Kama Sutra, an ancient Sanskrit text that, over the years, has become the go-to guide for intricate sex positions. Ask your sister (if that’s the kind of relationship you two have), and she’ll send you a link to order it online. Do a quick online search, and you’ll be directed to it. Text your group chat about mixing up your sex life, and they’ll recommend it.
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